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Tips to Build Self-Esteem in Your Child
A child’s self-esteem impacts their behavior and
their enjoyment of life. It is important as a parent that you
foster the positive development of your child’s self-esteem. If
you don’t know how to build your child’s self-esteem you can start
by following these simply tips.
Building Your Child’s Self-Esteem – Tip 1
Offer your child unconditional love. This means that you don’t
place conditions on what your child has to do or be in order for
you to give them love. This doesn’t mean that you have to avoid
discipline, but what it does mean is that you can’t use their
mistakes or failures as ammunition to push them away emotionally.
Building Your Child’s Self-Esteem – Tip 2
Encourage your child in all of their endeavors.
Every time that your child shows interest in something positive,
encourage them to explore that activity. Let them know that you
(1) are interested in what they are doing, and (2) that you will
support them along the way.
Building Your Child’s Self-Esteem – Tip 3
Learn how to discipline your child with out attacking their self
esteem. This can be accomplished by letting the child know that
you love them, but you don’t love their behavior. By providing
this reasoning the punishment will not be seen as a belittlement.
Building Your Child’s Self-Esteem – Tip 4
Plan family activities that will provide your child with
opportunities to make decisions that will impact the whole family.
For example, if you are planning a family vacation let your child
help plan where you will go, where you will stay, and what
activities you will participate in. By letting them make decisions
that impact the whole family you are giving them the confidence
that they need to foster a healthy self-esteem.
Building Your Child’s Self-Esteem – Tip 5
Reinforce positive behavior and achievements with extra affection
and praise. This will tell your child that you are proud of their
achievements, and that you appreciate their positive behavior.
This is a very affective way to instill values, and to promote
positive behavior and high self-esteem.
Building Your Child’s Self-Esteem – Tip 6
Spend quality time with your child. This is one of the easiest
ways to build your child’s self-esteem. By spending quality time
with your child and showing an interest in what your child does
you are communicating that you love your child and that you value
Building Your Child’s Self-Esteem – Tip 7
Lead by example. Show your child that you have high self-esteem.
Don’t talk derogatorily about yourself or your body. Show them
that you respect yourself and that you are more successful in life
because of your high self-esteem.
Building Your Child’s Self-Esteem – Tip 8
Show your child respect. Don’t label them or use derogatory terms
to refer to them, even in jest. Also share personal information
about the child with others, as this can be very embarrassing for